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Valentines Day- the season of love, roses…and unexpected breakups. While some couples are having candlelit pasta dinners, others are realizing that they don’t want to split the check over another unnecessary dinner. Nothing says “we’re done” like judging your relationship over an overpriced meal, the awkward ride home, and the confusion you gain after. What next?

These questions have been asked over all ended relationships, but at Hayfield, our Hawks have the best advice on how to deal with it. These are the top eight questions that the newly single rack their minds about.

1: What were the first steps you took to move on? Why was that your first step?

“One of the first steps I took was to get rid of everything that reminded me of them in my room. I put it all into a box and I put it into my guest closet and it has never been touched since. [I did this] because every single time I went into my room it was just a reminder of what happened, and for me to move on, I needed to not be reminded of it every single day,” senior Alyvia Young said.

“[My emotions] were kinda just there like they weren’t gonna go away magically. So I just had to cope with it and just go hang out with friends and talk to my family,” junior Zach Suga said.

2: Were there any habits or routines that helped you move on? How did they help?

“I just told myself that I was better off without him, and the break up allowed me to grow into a better and more self confident person,” senior Ava Derks said.

“Getting out of bed everyday! And trying to workout and focus on schoolwork,” Hayfield alumna said.

3: Did you seek advice/support from anyone?

“I got support from my best friend and we hung out the day after and she made me feel better,” junior Elliot Grant said.

“I [sought] out a lot of advice from my parents. While being a teenager, you have so many complicated emotions and problems, so it can be hard to understand why someone does what they do. My parents were able to help me through the confusing feelings like “why me?” and “when are the sad feelings going to stop?” Because my mom went through similar things as a teen, I feel that she was able to understand what I went through the best. She always reassured me that I was strong and loved,” junior Sadie Ricks said.

4: How did you cope with the moments of loneliness or sadness?

“I leaned on my hobbies, especially music. Brent Faiyaz helped me the most,” junior Tyler Truong said.

“I knew that better days were gonna come and this was going to pass,” junior Allison Vargas-Landaverde said.

5: Did you find closure? If not, how did you move on without it?

“Not really, but I’ve heard from people that know him and what I heard made me feel better now that it’s over. [To move on,] I just focused on myself and did me,” Grant said.

6: What advice would you give someone on how to get closure?

“Just look at it and just accept it then find someone else to move on to,” Truong said.

“Don’t just stay in your house alone, go outside and hang out with people. Don’t just sit in your house and be depressed. It’s not as fun,” Suga said.

7: Was there a piece of advice someone gave you that really stuck with you?

“Be a shark and keep moving,” senior Jackson Yezefski.

“Focus on yourself. And take the time to heal and [don’t] focus on the other person and what they chose to do after the relationship,” Hayfield alumna said.

8: Looking back, is there anything you wish you did differently?

“No, because I feel like we ended on good terms, there was no hate. When we broke up we were at both different points in our lives and what we had was great but it’s over,” Young said.

“Probably better communication between me and him and I wish I knew him a little better,” Grant said.